What if I am ashamed of my fantasy?
We totally understand shame, especially when it comes to your sexual needs.Try to take baby steps, investigate your fantasy within yourself. Why do you want this? Your wants should never been apologized for. Try to say it out loud to yourself, write it down. Getting it out will help you realize your fantasies and be less shameful about them.
How do I talk to someone about what I want without feeling like I am being pushy?
It is all about the delivery. As a woman you should always stand up for what you want. You don’t need to be bossy, just clear about it. Speak calmly and don’t push it if you get a negative response. Note: a no does not always mean no forever.
What if I don’t know what my fantasies are?
Try thinking about things that turn you on, or if you’re comfortable watch some porn or even sexy scenes in movies. Then work on our Fantasy Writing Exercise. Remember, no one has to see it except for you, so don’t be afraid to say anything that comes to mind. We are sure you will come up with something.
